Ok we got it out. But we dont know how were going to get it back in.
Just a fyi for future suspension installers: The way we were able to do this was gripping the hell out of the exposed part of the bolt between the mount and the rubber bushing, while turning the bolt. This works, but the grip needed is tremendous.
That is the proper way to do it (allen key method) but, on my car it stripped the allen key portion (using the correct size) so... I just went and bought 2 new endlinks, they are only about $30 each for brand new ones.
Just an update. YOU DONT HAVE TO TAKE THE ENDLINKS OFF. I spoke with In2Twins who explained that the since the swaybar isnt preloaded if you jack up both sides evenly you will be able to remove the strut without even touching the endlink.
When we tried this we were able to do this incredibly quickly. Just for anyone who ends up doing this.